I myself am in pain these days. Why am I in pain these days? The answer is that I want a woman that I am not allowed to have from my place of work.
She is much younger than me and she also has a boyfriend already, and because she is a coworker of mine, she's off-limits to me.
I have made peace with my reality, I accept that this woman for the foreseeable future is to be off-limits to me, at least for now. Why have I been so able to be so calm with this pain inside me?
Two factors prevail in my favor, and they
are big assets for me.
The first one, my first advantage, lies in a famous quotation by famed author John Milton, author of Paradise Regained. He wrote, “The man who reigns in over his own desires, his passions, and his fears - that man is more than a King.”
I have a lot to say about this quotation, it's more powerful than any psychiatric drug that you can take for a case of nerves.
And I will discuss, this quotation and what it means, and what it means in a case like this one in ways similar to a dialogue uttered by the fictitious character Jane Eyre. She says something to a lover in the line of "principles and morals are for use in the times when you are tempted to disregard them."
Thus, for now, the ability to control oneself in terms of controlling my own desires and my passions and my fears is proving itself most valuable now that I am tempted most strongly to surrender myself and give myself over to my passions, to my desires, and my fears.
But then, should I do that immediately easy thing, which is to surrender to these forces inside me - in what way am I different or superior to some marionette puppet being dangled by strings pulled by some other person?
Being reduced like this is unacceptable to me. Then I have more to say about that quotation is most certain. But for the sake of keeping this discussion within reasonable bounds, I leave my discussion of that quotation here.
Now, for the main course of this article, I begin here.
Pain - can sometimes be a gift that you can use as information. It should not be fled from; instead, it should be stirred like a gift from God should be stirred and used.
Yes, of course, I'm hurting
now, and I hate being hurt. But being hurt is a crisis that should not be
allowed to go to waste by the hurt one. You can do a lot with pain, such as
writing in a journal, writing a song about getting hurt by someone who did not
want you, doing a work of art, or using that energy in some creative way.
In summary, what this article is designed to do for you is to inspire you to use what you hate in order to find out what you want for real, and to use the pain of war through something you hate in order to empower and enforce your way forward in life.
Here is an example: the Group Oreja de Van Gogh in the early 2007 came up with a song titled "Dulce Locura," in Spanish meaning Sweet Madness. It's based on being crazy for someone. And taking that madness and having it mean something special.
The song became a hit and it was showcased in Vina Del Mar, a Spanish language music festival.
Main ResultsLyrics
Vendo el inventario de recuerdos de la historia
Prettier than ever I heard
Más bonita que en la vida escuché
I sell the script of the saddest movie and the
Vendo el guion de la película mas triste y la
More beautiful than in life I could see
Más bella que en la vida pude ver
I sell the chords, the bright melody, and the lyrics
Vendo los acordes, la brillante melodía y la letra
That is life I will compose
Que en la vida compondré
I sell even the poster where the premiere is announced
Vendo hasta el cartel donde se anuncia el estreno
Of the moment that in life I will live
Del momento que en la vida viviré
Entiendo que te fueras y ahora pago mi condena
But don't ask me to want to live
Pero no me pidas que quiera vivir
Sin tu luna, sin tu sol, sin tu dulce locura
I get small and petite
Me vuelvo pequeña y menuda
The night dreams and mocks you
La noche te sueña y se burla
I try to hug you and you shield yourself
Te intento abrazar y te escudas
Vendo una cámara gastada que captaba la mirada
That in life I will record
Que en la vida grabaré
I sell two expired tickets that were second
Vendo dos entradas caducadas que eran de segunda
The row that in life I will break
Fila que en la vida romperé
I sell two seats reserved centuries ago and now
Vendo dos butacas reservadas hace siglos y ahora
I fall that in life I sat
Caigo que en la vida me senté
I sell even the poster where the premiere is announced
Vendo hasta el cartel donde se anuncia el estreno
Of the moment that in life I will live
Del momento que en la vida viviré
Entiendo que te fueras y ahora pago mi condena
But don't ask me to want to live
Pero no me pidas que quiera vivir
Sin tu luna, sin tu sol, sin tu dulce locura
I get small and petite
Me vuelvo pequeña y menuda
The night dreams and mocks you
La noche te sueña y se burla
I try to hug you
Te intento abrazar
Sin tu luna, sin tu sol, sin tu dulce locura
Crying like a rainy day
Llorando como un día de lluvia
My soul takes off and looks for you
Mi alma despega y te busca
On a journey that never returns
En un viaje que no vuelve nunca
Sonreiré, cada noche al buscar, a tu luna en mi tejado
The memory of a hug that makes me shiver
El recuerdo de un abrazo, que me hace tiritar
Sin tu luna, sin tu sol, sin tu dulce locura
I get small and petite
Me vuelvo pequeña y menuda
The night dreams and mocks you
La noche te sueña y se burla
I try to hug you
Te intento abrazar
Sin tu luna, sin tu sol, sin tu dulce locura
Crying like a rainy day
Llorando como un día de lluvia
My soul takes off and looks for you
Mi alma despega y te busca
On a journey that will never return
En un viaje que nunca volverá
